The following are recognised as common signs that domestic violence is taking place:
- destructive criticism and verbal abuse: shouting, mocking, accusing, name calling, verbally threatening;
- pressure tactics: sulking, threatening to withhold money, disconnect the phone, take the car away, commit suicide, take the children away, report you to welfare agencies unless you comply with their demands regarding the children, lying to your friends and family about you, telling you that you have no choice in any decisions.
- disrespect: persistently putting you down in front of other people, not listening or responding when you talk, interrupting your telephone calls, taking money from you without asking, refusing to help with childcare or housework.
- breaking trust: lying to you, withholding information from you, being jealous, having other relationships, breaking promises and shared agreements.
- isolation: monitoring or blocking your telephone calls, telling you where you can and cannot go, preventing you from seeing friends and family.
- harassment: following you, checking up on you, opening your mail, repeatedly checking to see who has telephoned you, embarrassing you in public.
- threats: making angry gestures, using physical size to intimidate, shouting at you, destroying your possessions, breaking things, punching walls, wielding a knife or a gun, threatening to kill or harm you and/or the children or pets